Here it is.  A day I have been warned about and one that many people dread for years.  One (much younger) friend jokingly called it my “situation!”

Today is my birthday and today I am forty.

With all the hype and concern expressed by others I half expected to wake-up this morning to see black skies, to have my hair fall out in clumps and to feel nothing but pain and discomfort.

Instead, I woke up to my beautiful daughters smiling and excited face, a backyard full of sunshine, breakfast and group “selfies” in bed with my kiddies, and nothing but feelings of love, gratitude and joy.

Birthday Selfie

Birthday Breakfast

Grateful that I am still moving around this world in this body, that I am surrounded by two children I love more than anything in the world, that I can support us comfortably, that I have a incredibly supportive family, and that I am blessed with a posse of friends who make every single day an adventure worth sharing.

So what’s the big deal with turning 40?  After all, isn’t it just a number?

Definitely not!

For me forty is important and worth celebrating because of how much I grew in my thirties.  Ten years ago, I spent a lot of my time focused on the past, the future; and how life, other people, and circumstances were not showing up in a way that delivered happiness to me.  But through a great deal of contemplation, self-reflection, and study I have learned that nothing outside of me is responsible for my life experience.  Nothing outside of me is the source of anything that happens to me.

I know that I am responsible for my own happiness, abundance, losses, bad choices, circumstances, shortcomings and challenges.  And realizing this has changed everything.

So if anyone were to ask me if I would like to turn back the clock and go back to my twenties I would happily tell them that I am exactly where I am meant to be, living the life I created, and celebrating every perfect (and not so perfect) moment as it comes.

Whatever age you are today and whatever your circumstances look around and find at least one thing to appreciate, embrace and enjoy.  Even if today isn’t your birthday, celebrating that one small thing will make you feel like it is!

To help you with your own celebration here is a video my 9 year old daughter played for me in bed this morning.  This alone will make me smile all day long!

Here's to never growing up

With love and gratitude,

Melanie

So this is forty
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13 thoughts on “So this is forty

  • 23 August, 2014 at 11:19 am
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    Happy Birthday Mel! I am always grateful to have you as a friend. Enjoy your special day today. Love you lots

    Jen

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    • 23 August, 2014 at 2:30 pm
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      Thanks Jen! I appreciate your friendship so much and love that you guys were part of my week! It is always great to see you all!! xo

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  • 23 August, 2014 at 1:44 pm
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    Happy Birthday, dear friend! Thank you for continuing to share your wisdom through this blog. I love it! Your open heart is a gift to us. Much love, Mel xx

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    • 23 August, 2014 at 2:28 pm
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      Thank you so much Mel! Your friendship has always been a blessing for me! xo

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  • 24 August, 2014 at 8:29 am
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    Happy Birthday Melanie, I hope you were truly spoilt for you birthday as you deserve it! You give in so many ways and I love reading your blog! I am now going for a run, something you have inspired me to do. Hugs xxxxx

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    • 25 August, 2014 at 9:23 pm
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      Thank-you so much Liz! I am so proud of your progress with your running and love that you have developed a passion for it. Your friendship has always meant a lot to me! xo

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  • 25 August, 2014 at 8:38 pm
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    Hey Sis…you always know how to touch me with your words! I was grateful for having the opportunity to spend your 40th B-Day with you and here’s to many more 🙂 Great picture by the way of you and my adorable niece and nephew…Love you lots your bro!

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    • 25 August, 2014 at 9:24 pm
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      Thanks Dave! It meant the world that you were here to celebrate with me – so many great memories and laughs to cherish! xo M

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  • 26 August, 2014 at 9:51 am
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    Happy birthday Melanie! You have only gotten better with age my friend. An amazing person you are and I’m so glad that I can count you as one of my friends. Best wishes. xoxo

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  • 27 August, 2014 at 8:45 am
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    Ageing really is bittersweet.. wouldn’t change it or me for the world.. thanks for sharing your journey.

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    • 27 August, 2014 at 10:24 pm
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      So true Dina – thanks for being a great role model for living a full and joyful life! xo

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  • 27 August, 2014 at 7:18 pm
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    Mel,

    I am so proud of the 40 year old beautiful woman you are today. Loving, beautiful, funny, charismatic, driven, motivated, successful, compassionate. Own your 40 and live… You are my angel that I look up to. Love always, Nathalie

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    • 27 August, 2014 at 10:25 pm
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      Sweet Nathalie – thank-you so much for your words and for always being such a great guide, friend and inspiration! You are a true blessing in my life. xo

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