Ever heard of a swear jar? If you are a parent of school-aged kids, I already know the answer to this! This lucrative concept has kids all over the world earning fabulous spending money just by listening intently for their parents to lose their cool and drop a “bad” word. Although I am not squeaky clean in the swearing department, I have trained myself to find other words to use in front of my little ones, so in my house, they will just have to keep helping out if they want to earn play money!

However, there are other potty mouthed parents who are turning their curse words into charitable efforts and I wanted to share one with you today because I love the creative way this family started giving back. Kindness girl is a wonderful blogger I started following earlier this year and she has created a virtual swear jar that you can use with your family online. She then donates the proceeds to worthy causes.  So cool.

However, the “f” word I want to talk about today has far more baggage and is a lot harder for people to wield than a simple, frustration inspired, f-bomb.


Everyone of us has had someone else do us wrong.  We have all experienced the pain of being dumped, rejected, or excluded.  You may have even been bullied, harassed or picked on.  Perhaps you were taken advantage of at work, or passed over for a promotion that should have been yours.  Maybe you didn’t get the girl or perhaps you weren’t treated fairly.  Some of you have even had some really ugly shit (oops, that’s $1) happen to you at the hand of others.  The point is, whatever wrong you’ve experienced in the past or you perceive is happening to you in the present, it is holding you back as long as you hang on to it.

A Course in Miracles defines forgiveness as merely an act of remembering only the loving thoughts of the past and letting go of everything else.  Although it sounds simple, it is probably the hardest thing many of us will ever do.  To let go of the thought that we are right because someone did us wrong prevents us from ever returning to that place, and for many of us we have become so identified with our righteousness that we don’t know what we will do without it.  So why would anyone want to let go?  One of my favourite questions, captures this perfectly.

Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?

I can speak from experience that the emotional release of letting go; the absolute freedom to begin again is the only path to joy, peace, and happiness and each day creates another opportunity to forgive and start anew.

Blue_Moon2_610x397Tonight is a full moon, and a blue moon at that.  It is a perfect opportunity to appreciate the cycles of life and to release what no longer serves you.  As you ready yourself for bed this evening or before you get busy into your day tomorrow look toward the moon and ask yourself, ‘what negative thoughts and energy can I release?  What new hopes can I inspire by making the choice to just let go?’

With peace and gratitude,


That Darn “F” Word
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3 thoughts on “That Darn “F” Word

  • 21 August, 2013 at 7:13 am

    Mel, each day I’m going to practice saying to myself “do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?” Thanks for that 🙂

    • 21 August, 2013 at 7:46 am

      That’s great Jennifer! It’s a funny thing, forgiveness. Often we don’t do it because we think it is something we give the other person, but in the end it is a gift we give ourselves; and you are extremely deserving of the peace that comes with it! <3

  • 1 November, 2013 at 10:42 pm

    Dammit! I would so like to be right! I know… better to be happy! Thanks as always for the reminders Melanie!



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