Today marks the final day of what has always been my favourite holiday weekend of the year – Thanksgiving. In the past it has been a weekend of adventure spent sitting by a fire, exploring the shores of a lake with my children and cooking elaborate meals without the comforts of home. But things have changed and as a result, so did the nature of my weekend.
Change is hard.
Regardless of whether or not it is a good change or a bad change, there is a loss associated with change that inevitably causes us to feel stress and sometimes overwhelm. Having lived through my share of it, I totally agree.
However, I also believe we have a choice in how we handle change. Regardless of whether or not our changes are life altering, day altering, or they barely affect us at all, we can choose to focus on what could come from the experience in a positive way or we could dwell on the loss.
I know this is easier said than done, but as I ended an emotional week with an emotional evening last night, I made a choice. A choice to look at what I have lost in some experiences as the opening to new and better ones. For me the easiest way to do this is to remember everything I am grateful for and there is no better day to be grateful than Thanksgiving.
Today I am grateful…
- for new traditions and experiences;
- for adventurous children;
- for legs that let me run races, ski down hills, and dance with abandon in my kitchen;
- for a circle of friends who hold my hand through some of the toughest losses and who let me hold theirs;
- for blue skies, sunny days, and the abundance of nature that surrounds me;
- for the moments when I embrace my own truth and can speak it without fear;
- for hugs – the encouraging ones, the playful ones, and the ones that speak to you without words;
- for the peaceful space I call home;
- for a parenting partner who puts our children first;
- for the privilege to study and learn;
- for the opportunity to connect with a community of gratitude lovers who will support a complete stranger with their words;
- for the technology that keeps us all connected;
- for a heart that is willing to take risks and trust that everything will be ok, even when it doesn’t make sense to do so;
- for parents that are eternally accepting, supportive, understanding, and unconditionally loving;
- for red wine, dark chocolate, and 80’s pop music – especially when they all happen together;
- for the words ‘hope, cherish, opportunity, acceptance, presence and love‘
- for all the experiences and relationships that await me;
- for you, always.
Before you go to bed tonight, if you haven’t already, I encourage you to make your own list of all the things you are grateful for. It only takes a moment and I guarantee you will sleep better focusing on what you do have as opposed to what you may no longer have in your life.
The Universe said it best this morning.
All else you may ever ask for, Melanie, during the rest of your entire life and beyond, will still be far less than what you already have. I love you so ~ The Universe
With much love and gratitude,